We have all heard the phrase, "You have to love your self first". As a professional psychic, I have heard this quite a bit over the years. As a clairvoyant, I can "see" or "feel" what is actually happening in a person's life and what they can do to get more balance in their lives if they really want to change to occur.
We have all said or heard it said to us that, 'You have to love your 'self' first', but we really have no clue on how to go about acting on it. When a person is upset, overwhelmed or angry, this type of comment is often viewed as an attack. Neither person really knows how to begin the change necessary to correction the problem.
People are usually just trying to help when they say this phrase. However, what actually happens with the person in trouble is that they withdraw further. This has a tail-spin effect which causes the person who received the comment to feel attacked. Generally, a comment like this has the converse effect on the person it is said to.
People need to realize what message they are really sending when they say well-intended things. The person receiving it can feel that you really don't understand the pain they are feeling, which can cause them to withdraw into themselves because no one understands.
1. I'm frustrated because I don't know how to help you
2. If only you'd do what I tell you to do, everything will get resolved
3. This is what you need to do
4. I can't fix it for you so I don't want to hear about it anymore
The pain will intensify in a person who is in a crisis because they need someone to vent to and are instead being told how to cure their issues by a trusted friend or relative. When people feel at a loss of what to do they want to be heard; that is when they turn to psychic readings and make a call as a last resort to get some relief from their situation.
People need to be treated with kindness and compassion when they are deep into emotional trouble. This helps them to help themselves. Here is an clear explanation of what should happen when picturing your 'self' saving your 'self':
Your young child is being ganged up on at recess. Most people run to their crying child and pull them out of the situation. Parents usually have a fierce innate protection toward their children and run to protect them immediately without thinking about it. You have saved their 'self' by removing them from the situation and then calming them down.
Adults can also get beat up on the playground of life, and, we have to learn to save our "selves". When adults get into difficult problems, they tend to get stuck and hope that, in time, things will change on their own. We buy time, longing for our situation to right itself, while continuing to endure pain and suffering.
When things don't change, it is because no action has been taken has been taken. The cycle begins again, over and over until we are desperate for change and don't know what to do, where to go or who to turn to. Why? The answer to this is because we were not taught how to save our "selves". We complain to our friends, hairdressers, neighbors, counselors, therapists or doctors and still, nothing improves the situation. The act of loving yourself means taking your "self" out of a bad situation by grabbing your own hand and moving to higher ground. Other actions can include things like:
1. Remove your 'self' from the negative circumstances
2. Take a class and learn something that you have always dreamed of
Psychic readings can help people see that you are only as trapped as you feel. They try to open up the person so that they, too, can see that they have the ability to change the situation. Professional psychics will get you to see that hope is not a good strategy and that it is up to the person to take the step that has been pointed out to them.
Remember, if you don't treat your "self" well, why should anyone else want to?
We have all said or heard it said to us that, 'You have to love your 'self' first', but we really have no clue on how to go about acting on it. When a person is upset, overwhelmed or angry, this type of comment is often viewed as an attack. Neither person really knows how to begin the change necessary to correction the problem.
People are usually just trying to help when they say this phrase. However, what actually happens with the person in trouble is that they withdraw further. This has a tail-spin effect which causes the person who received the comment to feel attacked. Generally, a comment like this has the converse effect on the person it is said to.
People need to realize what message they are really sending when they say well-intended things. The person receiving it can feel that you really don't understand the pain they are feeling, which can cause them to withdraw into themselves because no one understands.
1. I'm frustrated because I don't know how to help you
2. If only you'd do what I tell you to do, everything will get resolved
3. This is what you need to do
4. I can't fix it for you so I don't want to hear about it anymore
The pain will intensify in a person who is in a crisis because they need someone to vent to and are instead being told how to cure their issues by a trusted friend or relative. When people feel at a loss of what to do they want to be heard; that is when they turn to psychic readings and make a call as a last resort to get some relief from their situation.
People need to be treated with kindness and compassion when they are deep into emotional trouble. This helps them to help themselves. Here is an clear explanation of what should happen when picturing your 'self' saving your 'self':
Your young child is being ganged up on at recess. Most people run to their crying child and pull them out of the situation. Parents usually have a fierce innate protection toward their children and run to protect them immediately without thinking about it. You have saved their 'self' by removing them from the situation and then calming them down.
Adults can also get beat up on the playground of life, and, we have to learn to save our "selves". When adults get into difficult problems, they tend to get stuck and hope that, in time, things will change on their own. We buy time, longing for our situation to right itself, while continuing to endure pain and suffering.
When things don't change, it is because no action has been taken has been taken. The cycle begins again, over and over until we are desperate for change and don't know what to do, where to go or who to turn to. Why? The answer to this is because we were not taught how to save our "selves". We complain to our friends, hairdressers, neighbors, counselors, therapists or doctors and still, nothing improves the situation. The act of loving yourself means taking your "self" out of a bad situation by grabbing your own hand and moving to higher ground. Other actions can include things like:
1. Remove your 'self' from the negative circumstances
2. Take a class and learn something that you have always dreamed of
Psychic readings can help people see that you are only as trapped as you feel. They try to open up the person so that they, too, can see that they have the ability to change the situation. Professional psychics will get you to see that hope is not a good strategy and that it is up to the person to take the step that has been pointed out to them.
Remember, if you don't treat your "self" well, why should anyone else want to?
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